Even the most well-adjusted and well-balanced child can get “frazzled” during holiday time. For a child with special needs, the frazzle point can be reached sooner. The fast pace, the noise, the disruption in a regular schedule can add up to too much stimulation. But help is at hand. Planning ahead will make sure that all members of the family enjoy the holiday season and can ward off the possibility of wear and tear. Here are some tips:

Prepare in advance.
Discuss the event you’re planning to attend; where it will be, how you’re going to get there, who will be there, so that the child will know what to expect and won’t have to deal with surprises. If you’re having people at your home, set up a safe place for your child to go to if he needs to cool down.

Set time limits.
If you’re planning to be at a party or gathering or restaurant, set a reasonable time limit and stick to it.

Pick your battles.
Don’t add to the stress level by expecting your child to look perfect or to behave perfectly. For example: Don’t make an issue of special clothes if your child feels comfortable in jeans. Don’t set up behavioral rules in advance, such as “be sure you shake hands with Uncle …”

Bring activities.
Bring along some of your child’s favorite things – a book, a game – to provide her with a sense of familiarity and allow her to retreat if things become overly stimulating.

Plan carefully.
Avoid attending too many festivities, and allow some cool-down time between events. Organize your schedule with your child’s individual temperament in mind; each child’s tolerance for stimulation and ability to adapt vary. Give the child a warning before the end of an activity, which gives her a chance to readjust at her own pace.

Monitor your child.
If your child is part of a group of children, watch their interaction so that you can intervene if necessary or if things are getting out of hand.

Stay calm.
Your kids will echo your mood.

Praise your child.
Remember to reward good behavior.